Monday, November 24, 2014

What I Wore November 12th

I went to an important meeting for one of my jobs on November 12th, one where I prefer to wear sleeves that go at least to my elbows. I bought this top about three years ago as I liked the pattern. I don't wear it often and usually just for work. It's quite a thick material so I tend to save it for colder months.

It came from Evans and I wore it here with a black skirt. Sorry for the bathroom picture but there was no one in to take a photo for me!


Saturday, November 22, 2014

Book Review - Every Day by David Levithan

So you may know that I'm a writer with a passion for Young Adult novels; I'm currently writing my own for my MA. I read a lot of YA stuff, so I have of course heard of David Levithan. This was my first time reading anything by him, though. This book was recommended to me as part of my collection of LGBTQ YA fiction and I finished it last night.


Okay so the basic premise of the book is that A, our protagonist, who has no specific gender and no specific sexuality, wakes up every day in the body of a different teenager. Sometimes they're a boy, sometimes a girl. Sometimes something extraordinary happens, but usually it's just an ordinary day where A goes to school, talks to the teenager's friends and parents, and tries to not disrupt things too much. A is very moral, which is obvious at the end of the book. I actually really like the ending, even though much of the internet doesn't agree with me. 

One day, A wakes up at Justin and meets Justin's girlfriend Rhiannon. A falls for her pretty badly, so over the next few days they go back to see her, in different bodies of course. Then they tell her the truth about who they are and the two of them sort of start up a relationship. 

The LGBTQ stuff in this book is great. A wakes up as a boy who goes to Pride with his boyfriend, and later as a girl in her girlfriend's arms. One time they wake up as a trans boy. While Rhiannon is straight, she doesn't mind when A turns up to see her as a girl and even kisses them as a girl sometimes. 

But.

I'm really appalled that I have to write a 'but' for this novel. I expect better from my Young Adult authors, especially those who are trying be representative of teens' real experiences. 

There's a horribly fatphobic part to this novel which, frankly, ruins it for me. 

On Day 6025, A wakes up as Finn, who "must weight at least three hundred pounds". A "has been heavy before", but never this heavy. Finn's size comes from "negligence and laziness", he sweats when he gets out of the shower, he is "a sphere of darkness submarining through the halls", he has to take another shower after school because fat people sweat all the time amirite. His best clothes are an XXXL shirt and size 46 jeans and chairs wobble under him. He wheezes in the movie theater. 

Usually when Rhiannon sees A, she can see them under whatever the outer looks like. Not today, though. She says "Usually I can. Some glimmer of you in the eyes. But not tonight" and also "When I see you like this, I don't [feel anything]." A thinks this is flattering, in some eyes. Their real soul clearly isn't a fat person, because ewww. They don't kiss each other on this day, and they don't hold hands in the cinema. There's no way, obviously, that Rhiannon could be attracted to this fat boy. No one 'normal' could be. 

I'm disgusted at the author, frankly. I think this is so clumsy and so terrible to fat teenagers who might be reading this book. I actually put it down in shock and wasn't sure whether to continue, and I'm 30 years old. A more fragile psyche may be permanently damaged and I think YA authors have more of a duty to teenagers than that.

Finn, the 300lb sixteen year old, is as worthy of love and affection as anyone else. 

Friday, November 21, 2014

What I Wore November 4th

On November the 4th I went to work wearing a very different outfit to this and about halfway through my day I realised I had a stain on my top half! This happens sometimes and is not one bit glamorous. I got changed before I headed back out.

I went to an event in Sheffield about LGBT+ bullying towards young people. It was really amazing, there were researchers and practitioners and young people and it felt like a really safe space to talk about issues and to listen to young people. I went as I thought it would inform my writing, and I really think it did.

Anyhow, this is what I wore.



This jumper was from Simply Be in the sale last New Year. It's really soft to touch and I like the 3/4 sleeve length and the colour.


This top was from New Look just a couple of weeks ago. I liked the mesh detail on the top.


A better close up of the mesh. I felt a bit like my boobs were too much on show, but in the photos I think I was worrying over nothing!

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Pookledo Giveaway!


My friend Sarah has a jewellery business called Pookledo. She's self-employed now and running the business full time, so I try to support her as I believe in supporting women and small businesses! I've recently bought three pairs of Christmas themed earrings, for the bargain price of £5!


Sarah offered me the chance of a giveaway item to run on my blog, so we decided we'd give you the opportunity to win a £10 voucher. That way, the lucky winner can choose what they'd like! £10 will get you 6 pairs of earrings or three friendship bracelets!


This is a Rafflecopter giveaway which is really easy if you've never used it before. It is open now and will remain open until the end of November. I will need your email address if you win so Sarah can send you the voucher!

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Sunday, November 16, 2014

What I Wore October 27th

Many of my friends are teachers or otherwise work in schools, so in half term I made plans to see four of them! On the Monday I went to Meadowhall to meet up with Sarah at Yo Sushi.

I first went with her a few years ago and we often still go. I love to be able to choose 'bits' of food (one reason why I also love tapas type meals) - I don't like to be tied down to one decision! I think my favourite dish on this day was the chicken katsu, Oh, Mondays is Blue Monday at Yo Sushi, where every dish is £2.50 or less.

This dress was from Excite Clothing last year and I have only worn it once before - almost a year ago, in fact. I love the pattern - but the dress just doesn't suit me. The underbust seam actually cuts across my boobs and it feels very uncomfortable, even though in the photo it doesn't look too bad.

I will sell this dress I think, probably on a Facebook group. Ah well, you live and learn!


Thursday, November 13, 2014

What I Wore October 25th

Lee and I went out in the evening of October 25th for my friend Laura's 30th birthday party. We went to an Indian restaurant in Huddersfield where we met Laura and her friends and our mutual friend Leanne (who got married in September - unfortunately Adi couldn't come). The food was nice and reasonably priced so I do recommend Mumbai Spice if you're in the area!

I wore this dress from Yours. Lolly gave me it a few weeks ago; it's a size 24 but comes up big. It is past knee length on me so I think if you were a 24 it would be a midi length. I wore a netted skirt under the dress to make it stick out a bit more than it would ordinarily. I also wore tights and my boots had their first outing this autumn!


Monday, November 10, 2014

Weekend Trip to London

A few weekends ago I went to London with my mum and stepdad to see Miss Saigon. Lee was supposed to come with us but it was when his uncle died so he went to Durham to see his family. Instead, I met up with my friend Lucinda after the theatre and we all had food together and she stayed in the hotel with me, so it was lovely to see her.

My parents took me to see Miss Saigon when I was around 9 years old and I loved it so I was keen to see it again. We had tickets in the dress circle right at the top, and we went to the afternoon show, and tickets for around £30. I bought myself a programme and a souvenir brochure which only came to £10 which was a nice surprise. I've still got my programme from last time too! I also got a souvenir mug which is living on my desk.

I wore the Scarlett & Jo prom dress as you can see in the photos below. It's so comfortable but looks really fabulous.

We had food at Wahaca which I recommend, I've been twice now and it's delicious and not too expensive.


Me and my mum


My gorgeous Lucinda




The fab Miss Saigon signs!